Hey, I’m Kirstie.
I'm a mom of almost three, an EFT practitioner, and a trauma-informed coach.
For a long time, I thought the answer was just around the corner.
If I could just stick to a routine. Get more organized. Be more patient. Manage my emotions better. Keep up with everything. Then I’d finally feel okay.
There was always another version of me I was trying to become.
A better mom. A better wife. A better business owner. A better version of myself. And for years, I chased her.
The problem was that no matter how much I accomplished, fixed, organized, optimized, or improved, the finish line never came.
Then motherhood exposed all of it.
I loved my children more than anything, but I was constantly carrying the pressure of trying to be everything for everyone.
Trying to be patient. Trying to be present. Trying to stay on top of it all. trying not to lose myself. And when I inevitably struggled, I didn’t respond with compassion.
I responded with more pressure, more criticism, more “why can’t I get it together?”
Snapping over little things that weren’t really about the little things.
Feeling overstimulated, restless, and like I had to control everything just to feel okay.
Shutting down, pulling away, and feeling numb when it all got too much.
I thought this was just who I was.
And that motherhood would always feel like this hard.
Then I found a different way.
Not in a “this fixed everything instantly” kind of way, more in a “maybe I don’t have to keep fighting myself” kind of way.
Little by little, I started understanding what was actually happening beneath the overwhelm, guilt, anxiety, and reactivity. I stopped trying to force myself to feel better and started learning how to work with myself instead.
I stopped staying stuck in guilt for days.
I understood my reactions instead of judging them.
I became more present with my kids, my husband and myself.
I started responding to myself with more compassion instead of criticism.
And honestly? I still get overwhelmed sometimes. I still shut down. I still catch myself falling into old patterns. I still have hard days.
But the difference is, I don’t abandon myself when they happen.
That’s why I do this work—because I know what it’s like to feel trapped in cycles you don’t know how to break.
And I also know there’s another way.
Not by forcing yourself to “be better” or just “stay calm” (because let’s be real, if that worked, we’d all be fine).
But by:
understanding what’s really driving your reactions
learning how to work with your emotions instead of fighting them
building self-trust, self-compassion, and awareness
creating more space between what you feel and how you respond
Because motherhood is hard enough without fighting yourself the whole way through.
Motherhood wasn’t meant to feel this heavy. You don’t have to stay stuck here.
And when you’re ready, I’d love to show you what’s possible.