Why You Feel So Angry and Overwhelmed After Having a Baby

(Even If You Love Your Kids)

No one told me I’d feel like this.

That I’d be so full of love and still want to scream.
That I’d look at my child and ache with tenderness—
And then snap two minutes later because someone touched me too much or spilled yogurt again.

That I’d feel rage.
Actual rage.
So intense it scared me.

And that afterward, I’d carry the guilt like a second skin.

If this is you too—this blog is a love letter to the part of you wondering if you're broken.

You're not.

You love your baby.

But sometimes you slam the door.
You yell. You break down.
And then the shame hits you like a truck.

You tell yourself:

“I should be more grateful.”
“Other moms have it worse.”
“What the hell is wrong with me?”

Let me be the one to say it:
There is nothing wrong with you.

You’re not broken. You’re burned out.
You’re not impatient. You’re overstimulated.
You don’t hate your kids. You’re just desperate for one second to breathe.

This is what no one warned you about.

Motherhood is beautiful. But it’s also relentless.

You’re holding everything and everyone.
Often without enough sleep, space, support—or silence.
Your nervous system is maxed out.
And when your body stays in survival mode long enough…
The rage comes.

Rage that terrifies you.
Guilt that eats you alive.
And the deep ache of missing the “you” that used to feel more like you.

This isn’t about loving your kids.

This is about not knowing what to do when you’re running on empty.

The problem isn’t you.
The problem is the pressure you’re under and the total lack of tools we’re given to handle it.

You’re not crazy. You’re dysregulated.

Your nervous system is doing its best to keep up—but it was never meant to hold this much, for this long, alone.

I know because I’ve been there too.

I’ve snapped.
I’ve sobbed behind a locked bathroom door.
I’ve felt afraid of the rage boiling under the surface.

And I’ve also found a way back to myself.

Tapping was the tool that changed everything for me—not because it erased the chaos, but because it gave me a way to release the pressure and meet myself with compassion instead of shame.

That’s what I want to share with you.

Try This: A 2-Minute Tapping Reset When You’re About to Break

You don’t need a full hour.
You don’t even need to calm down first.
You just need one small crack in the spiral—
To let your body exhale.

Tap gently on the side of your hand (the outer edge, below your pinky).
Repeat after me if you can.
Close your eyes if it feels good.
Just breathe.

Even though I feel like I might explode…
I’m still a good mom.

Even though I’m full of rage…
I know it’s a sign that I need support, not shame.

Even though I yelled, or slammed the door, or scared myself…
I deeply and completely love and accept myself just as I am.

Inside the Eyebrow:
This rage is so big. It feels like too much.

Side of eye:
I’ve been holding everything.

Under the eye:
I don’t feel like myself.

Under the nose:
And I hate how I keep snapping.

Chin:
I want to find my way back.

Collarbones:
I am safe to feel all this.

Under the arm:
I’m allowed to have needs.

Under the ribs:
I’m allowed to fall apart sometimes.

Top of the head:
I am doing my best.
Even when it feels like I’m failing.

Take a deep breath in…
And out.
Bring your hands to your heart.

You’re not alone in this.
And it doesn’t have to stay this way.

👉 Tap with me here
A soft, validating tapping reset for the moments you’re about to lose it.

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✨ Download The Tapping Mama Reset
A short audio & reflection you can return to anytime you feel like you’re drowning.

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No pressure. Just a space to finally be seen and held in what you’re carrying.

There’s a version of you underneath the yelling.
The shutdowns.
The shame spirals.
And she’s still in there—waiting to be held, not fixed.

This isn’t about being more patient.
It’s about being more supported.
By your nervous system.
By your tools.
By yourself.

You are not the problem.
You are the one who’s been trying to hold it all without a map.

So here’s a map.
Here’s a breath.
Here’s a beginning.

You deserve to feel good again.